HOW TO MAKE A GOAL AND STICK TO IT

Goals are a fickle thing. Sometimes they seem like great big ideas we stumbled upon in a moment of inspiration and at other times, they seem like painful little reminders of what we really want, but will never accomplish. What’s even weirder is that sometimes we would rather not accomplish them at all because if we did, we would be done with the chase!

Ahhh, the thrill of the chase. The thing that gets us going. Our reason. Our WHY.

Anyone ever heard of Simon Sinek? Famous author and motivational speaker?

Sinek has spent countless hours and research on “The WHY”. According to Sinek, one of the best ways to discover what your life’s purpose is to discover WHY you want to embark on such a journey to begin with. 

Powerful stuff. This excerpt is straight off of his site, www.simonsinek.com

“Whether you are an entrepreneur, an employee, a leader of a team, or are looking to find clarity on your next move, your WHY is the one constant that will guide you toward fulfillment in your work and life.”

Yes!!! Your NEXT move. Clarity. Fulfillment. I love this and I am on soooooo on board. 

Sinek is on point with his message and if I might add, in my opinion, not only is starting with WHY important when it comes to beginnings, it’s also worth taking a look at starting with YOU.

WHY-O-YOU.

WHO you are, determines WHAT you do and HOW you do it. This is the origin of it all and getting clear on who you are is a significant first step towards fulfillment.

Clarity is King or Queen. That being said, let’s see what you are made of.

The WHO Checklist:

•  I know who I am, my strengths and blindspots

•  I know how I like to learn and how my mind processes information and makes judgements on that information

• I know my values uniquely mine and the top value among all others that is the driving force behind my motivation

• I know what my beliefs are and how to navigate them in a world that holds many beliefs

• I understand my energy and when to upshift and downshift energetically to elicit an appropriate response

• I know what my talents and gifts are and how they fit in synergistically with the rest of the world

When you are super clear on these statements, your WHY becomes that much more apparent. You will begin to realize what you are fit for and the tracks you are best suited to run on.

So suit up! Because the goal is to enjoy the ride (with style and grace of course) without expectation of hitting your goal because frankly, your destination is inevitable. 

So what’s your goal? What do you want to accomplish that will move the needle in the direction simply feeling awesome about yourself and at the same time, impacting others? Want to start a business? Want to be an amazing parent? Want to get in the best shape of your life? What is it that you want and how do you get it.?

Let’s look at the classic example of wanting to get in shape.

Goal: To lose 20 lbs

Problem: I hate going to the gym. 

Pretty common goal (and dilemma) for many. For me, instead of figuring out WHY someone wants to lose the weight and what it would mean to them to do so, looking at WHO someone is BEING (yanno, human being) moment to moment is so much more powerful.

“Each moment gives us an opportunity to decide if thats WHO we want to be”

- Bruce Schneider

The above quote is one of my absolute favorites. It points to the fact that there is opportunity in every moment. Check out the Paraphrased scenario below:

:

Desire: I want to lose 20 lbs

Why: So that I can fit into my clothes, not be tired climbing up the stairs, feel confident again

Challenge: I hate the gym

Looking at the above case, is the hatred of the gym the reason one is 20 lbs overweight? No. The reason why the individual is in this predicament is because WHO they are being is someone who allows themselves to be influenced by things outside of their power and control.

WHO they are being is a choice and in this example, they are choosing to be a VICTIM. Beginning any transformation with a victim mindset will surely limit one’s options and creativity in arriving at their destination. 

That being said, what if the same person in this predicament understood exactly who they are “required” (not need) to become in order to really lose 20 lbs? What if they were able to articulate the characteristics of someone who could lose and keep off 20lbs has and emulate them daily?

Now THAT would be a great start!

Just please, when you decide to do this little tactic, do not fall into the comparison trap. That type of judgement will leave you with low energy and that’s no bueno. All I want you to do is identify what you admire and iew it as an insight or a clue, and put it to work for yourself. Cool?

Speaking of traps……

The I AM TRAP

I am FAT.  (false, you have fat, you're a homosapien)

I am a HARD WORKER. (awesome!)

*So what are you saying?*

Rephrase

I am fat because I have so little time due to my demanding job that by the end of the day I am exhausted.

Now that is something that 1000% can happen, and it does, for all of us!

Sometimes there is a believable loop of rationale that occurs in someones’s mind as to why they aren’t able to take action and it stays on repeat. When it gets played chronically, it becomes apart of our process. Unfortunately, that process can leave us with less desirable outcomes (once we actually notice them).

Whatever you are putting on the back burner, just remember, a major reason why you haven’t obtained it quite possible is because you are just unclear on what it takes to get it.

WHO you are determines WHAT………

Everything happens for a decision and WHO, will get you THERE, every-time. 

Decide WHAT you want. Determine HOW to get it. Develop WHO you are required to become and start living into those qualities with intention each and every day. 

Your path will become apparent and the collections of the little wins along the way to your goal of ease, flow and fulfillment will be experienced much sooner, rather than late. 

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